The grinding that students partake in at our high school dances is much too sexual and should not be so openly accepted. Take a step back and observe the dancing for what it is. Even Wikipedia points out the inherently sexual nature of grinding saying: “grinding is a type of close partner dance where two or more dancers rub their bodies (especially the genitalia) against each other in a sexually suggestive manner.” If you take away the music it’s just people rubbing their bodies on each other. The fact that it’s being done in a public school setting makes it unsettling to me. Have we come to a place where grinding is socially acceptable action even though it is about the most sexual thing you can do with your clothes on?
Teenage guys deal with an immense amount of sexual desire and grinding is a way for guys to release it. I have participated in grinding and will argue that it is indeed nothing more than such a release. However, what concerns me is what kind of message that we, the men of this school, are sending to the women of this school when we participate in a form of dancing where the sole purpose is to fulfill our sexual desire. I feel that any respect for women that we bring to a school dance doesn’t make it though the doors of the school on those late Friday nights; it is left outside and meets back up with us as we walk out. In an over-sexed world it has become difficult to find men with integrity who respect women. As Terrace men, I feel that we could be an amazing example to others by treating women well.
Many girls look at grinding as little more than “suggestive.” I want the girls to understand what it means to a guy. Most girls cannot comprehend that a guy can visualize a girl with her clothes off and engaging in something sexual with them at any time they want. It sounds unbelievable, but it is so true.
What is a fun Friday night for a girl is a sexual fantasy come to life for a guy. So, many girls I have talked to look at it as an innocent form of entertainment, but it is not. Going to dances and having multiple guys wanting to dance with you, hold you close, it all makes you feel wanted. The one thing a high school girl wants more than anything else is to feel wanted and loved; I can’t express how much I have come to understand that.
So, this is my suggestion to Terrace girls: Ask yourself what the intentions are of the man that I am trusting myself with?
If we can all come to the understanding that school dances are much too sexual and should not continue in the way they have, then that may other problems. ASB and other organizations profit greatly off of these dances. My call to action is that we as a student body can recognize the need for change and make dances friendlier to different kinds of dancing.
I am not alone in my opinion.
There are many students who agree and are discontent with going to dances because of grinding.
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